Hi,
All the staff at ADDept have lived with varying Impairments and parented some fabulous albeit exhausting children who have caused us much heartbreak but also given us a huge amount of happiness.
Whatever it is you are going through please know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, it's just difficult to see sometimes.
"If We Want Something We Haven't Already Got"
"We Have To Do Something We Haven't Already Done"
Is Your Child Struggling At School
Due to their Hidden Impairments, be it being bullied, made to feel inadequate or underachieving in their studies and you feel as if their school is not meeting their needs by either not recognizing or refusing to accept their diagnosis, hence not putting in place the resources needed in order for your child to access the full curriculum; please visit the Education page.
I have added some links to some sites whom I found extremely valuable whilst my son was being repeatedly excluded for his behaviour, absconding and finally resorting to violence due to feeling like he was "Drowning in a sea of frustration," which I felt was due largely to the negligence of the education system.
Take comfort in the knowledge that you are not alone, don't be hard on yourselves these children of ours may learn and behave differently, but we know as parents that they have fantastic personalities which would shine through at school if only they were accepted for being themselves and given the necessary with which to reach their full potential.
We at ADDept understand how EXHAUSTING are little
's can be
LIFE IS TO SHORT
Why not be guided by others who have been there!
Bullying Video
By
Daniel Fitzgerald
Click on the Picture to view
A small problem is like a pebble
♥Hold it too close to your eye and it fills the whole world and puts everything out of focus.
♥Hold it at a proper distance and it can be examined and properly classified.
♥Throw it at your feet and it can be seen in its true setting, just one tinier bump on the pathway of life.
♥The next time a problem arises, use your imagination to cast it to the ground as quickly as you can.
♥Then you need only step lightly over it and get on with the business of enjoying life.
♥May you always remember that problems, no matter how big they might seem,
are really no larger than your perspective insists they be.
♥Be the light...give out of love
HAVE A BLESSED DAY!
Poems
Medication Is A Tool
I see medication as being given a tool,
But when you’re not shown how to use it,
I feel you’ve been medicated for the sake of others,
Keep behaviour at bay, to stabilise mothers.
'Medications a tool' that when given,
May treat the core symptoms sometimes,
Help us to Focus, to stay on task,
Give us that minute to think,
Help us to cope with what life throws our way,
Help us to keep off the drink.
Medication alone is a single part,
On the road to recovery I feel,
Medical and Non Medical Input,
Has got to be the real deal.
Ritalin, Concerta, Strattera, or Dex,
There are numerous meds they can use,
But without Non Medical Input,
I feel they are being misused.
The Timing and the Dosage, Have got to be right,
When achieving desired effects,
Agreed they are given to keep behaviour at bay,
Not curing the Adder in any way,
But in my experience, an invaluable tool,
Which should be accepted by parents and School.
A Consultant is like a calculator,
If not given the correct sum to add,
Won't be able to give the best answer,
To the problems you tell them you have.
Often I found meds were not reassessed,
This really did add to my levels of stress,
Not wanting to eat, Sleepless Nights,
Was a major factor in unnecessary plights
Impulsive, Hyperactive, Distracted,
These things were helped by my meds,
But they don't cure the problems, just Symptoms,
And they helped to level off my head,
This tool does help when it’s given,
And when problems arise with your child,
Along with some Coaching and needed support,
Will help him to think - not act wild.
We’ve come to help
I told them he smashes furniture, Sets fires when he’s annoyed,
Does a runner up the village, our home was being destroyed.
One day that I remember, comes flooding back to me,
A visit from social services, in answer to my plea.
On arrival she entered, and told me to ignore,
The swearing, smashing and furniture, exploded all over the floor.
She shooed me to the kitchen, then offered her advice,
He’s only seeking attention, watch him calm, when I am nice.
As the second chair came through the door,
I wondered, how long, she’d take it for,
Her plan hadn’t worked; I hoped she would see,
That this defiant behaviour wasn’t all because of me.
It isn’t because I scream at him, or beat him black and blue,
Although I’m sometimes tempted, to deny it would be untrue.
An hour passed, which soon was two, and still my boy was mad,
The house, unrecognizable, the women she’d been had.
“How do you cope?” She said to me, “what’s your backup plan?
Who is here to support you? You need a blooming gang.
NOW THAT’S ENOUGH!!!” She said to him,
“Get Lost,” Was his reply, Accompanied by an Army truck,
This hit her in the eye.
She looked at me as if to say, Well, help, do something fast,
But who was I to get involved, I turned my back, and laughed.
But on a serious note my friends, this was never written in pen,
And when I brought it up at Conference, she’d forgotten it by then.
She’d conveniently forgotten, she had nothing more to say,
Miss Mowbray just imagined it - you know she thinks that way.
Extract from 'Our Lives With ADHD'
Author: Kate Mowbray
My Thoughts
By Mike Fewster
I tried to get the help,
Make them see sense,
All they wanted was money,
Their nose in the trough.
All my thoughts are,
Stand together as one,
It’s the last stand,
I’ve been stabbed
They’re getting your money
Next your soles
What’s next I ask?
Stand together
After 17 years in the hidden disability support system. Five years as chairman & founder of East Anglia Support Groups. During the last 12 years as National Coordinator for ADDept we've had untold success in government and other parts of the world.
The lack of support by other organizations has been appalling. My personal belief is they like people in difficulty, so they can claim for more tax payer’s money, plus pay themselves mind blowing wages and expense accounts.
The more disadvantaged people the more they can claim for. The mistake these professionals made was that they didn’t take into consideration ADDept don't take payment from those sources. Albeit I’ve left ADDept, Bob, Maggie and Kate are still fighting for services for disadvantaged people being used by the voluntary charity and private sectors for profit and abuse.
To my own kind as I’ve said constantly, they do what they do.Stand together as one.
There are more of us than there are of them.
I will continue in my own way for myself and give advice as always free of charge.
You are my family and I love you all.
xxx Mike xxx
Received: 22 October 2008 21:32
Peace at last
I was once a lonely girl,
Nothing seemed to last,
No friends, no love,
and stand outside the crowd.
I now understand,
I am a little different,
Now I'm adhd,
And feeling proud,
I've found my feet,
and now, stand proud.
A Hug a cuddle,
Would of been nice,
Instead of being in Hell.
If you know me understand,
I'm at peace at last,
and no kind words.
Received: 26 Sept 2008
The Lion Has Been Freed
Scared and bleeding
But full of spunk and pride
Tied down to long in rules
No cage surrounds him
No constriction to abide
No charity commission regulations
Mane up proud, he is free
To those who set him free
Thank you for your lies
The prowling of the kill begins
I wonder what's for tea?.
Mike Fewster
Behavioural Strategies
Before you say " Been Their - Done That" It Didn't Work
These Really Do !!!
Either contact Kate at ADDept who will take some details and make your child an individual planner
Or You can make a copy in Microsoft Excel
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